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I need your prayers... Actually my father does.
On Sept 17th while I was at the Skate Park working, I got the call that my father was very very ill and had a heart attack. Turned out that his Aorta had torn at his heart and that by the time I would get to Alex Hospital in Northern VA from Cocoa Beach FL he would not be alive if he doesn't have an emergency operation. I spoke to him while in route to Orlando airport to catch the next plane any plane out to DC and he had told me that he was not goig to have it done, that he is 81 years old and had a great life and then he said "I love ya son" My father has very rarely said those words (its not manly) in his world to say that, and then said good bye.
By the time I got to the Hospital it was 1am and thinking the worse all the way up, I was suprised to be informed that he is in the middle of the operation and by the time it was done 8 hours later (4am) he was in the worse condition that the CCU had ever had. One week later he comes out of the sedation and is making a recovery. Some major problems have occured and some have been cleared.
Fast Forward..... I have flown up several time since then to check on him and to help my family. Now, I am driving up to stay awhile because he has stoped all treatment and is refusing to eat or have the feeding tube put back in (he took it out himself a few days ago). He is getting worse and I would like to ask this of you, that do Pray. Please say one for him. I need it, he needs it, my Mum and Sister needs it.

Thank you so much for letting me just vent and ask this favor.

Wayne Deck

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You and your family are in my prayers!

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I've even told my 4 and 7 year old sons to say a prayer for your Dad. Stay strong and hang in there Wayne.

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Stay strong ! Thoughts and prayers are with you !! Keep us posted !!:grouphug:

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Wow wayne, thats a tough one, I hope the best for you and yours.
My thoughts are with you. I send my energy.

Having a mom that just died of cancer and having a father that has been deathly ill the last year, I have learned and seen that sometimes they know what is best for them, enjoy your pops every minute of the day, be positive and hang in there.

Hucky

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praying and hope the best for you guys. Hope everything turns out okay, let your father know that you guys really need him, help keep him strong. My grandfather was alsonot doing well around my birthday time in February, my mom kept telling him every day tat my birthday is (enter number) of days. Several days after my birthday he passed away. I am as well my family convinced that this helped keep him strong until after my birthday it gave him a will to stay well a little longer.

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He will be in my families prayers.

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Mine, too, W.

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Thank you everyone...

Wayne

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You got it, Wayne!:grouphug:

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Wayne, although I don't know you, I know how you are feeling. My Dad passed away 2 weeks ago. He was my friend, my confidant, my business partner....and most of all, my Dad.

My prayers are with you and your family at this difficult time.

-Frank

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You all are in my prayers.
I only hope that you dad had a wonderful 81 years, and that the remaining time here is peaceful and comfortable for him and his family.

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it goes without saying that you, your father and your family are in our thoughts and prayers....Hang in there, we're all pulling for you.

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Mine too and very sorry to hear about this :(

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Sorry to hear of your loss, And I thank you for your prayers as well as all of you. Just returned from the hospital and he was still not eating mush of anything. But seemed in much better spirit than yesterday when I arrived.

Wayne

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Good to hear this Wayne ! We're keeping him in our prayers !

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Done deal, you're family's on my list also.

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I know what you are going through. My step father died just over two weeks ago. He was very active. He just got done climbing Mt Washington for the millionth time the day before. He went to bed and never woke up.

My family wishes you the best in these trying times.

Hope everything works out for the best.

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Good thoughts and prayers going out to your family! Stay positive and look up..:)

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I thank all of you for your support.

We moved or should I say the Hospital decided it would be best for him to go to a rehab center in Mount Vernon VA. I personaly think it was the insurance company putting pressure to move him out of the hospital.
His surgery was a success! but he hasn't had much food since and can no longer stand he ahs lost so much muscle. Like most of the older generation he has his pride and being bed ridden has taken its toll on him. He stated tonight that he is giving up! Of course true to my dads style he waits until I get back to FL for the weekend to say that.

I am at wits end here and I would like to know if any of you have any sort of connections or politcal power or suggestion on how to get him back in Alexandria Hospital so that he can get 24/7 care.

Wayne

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Thats a tough one Wayne, You mentioned that the old school guys and theyre pride, My pops is 82 and going through the same stuff, I never understood him, until you just made that statement. Thanks.

Insurance Companies do alot of things, like quit paying the hospital bills and then the hospital has to kick him free. It costs a small fortune to stay in the hospital.
Hospitals have a 300% mark up, I know this cause my Mom paid all cash prior to passing of cancer recently and they worked a deal with her.

Im sure you have seen how scary our Medical System is here in America, Its really sad that we take care of everybody else out of country and Illegal but when we need it, were shoved downward.

Its going to take another EVENT for your father to wind up in the hospital again, Im sorry to put it that way, but thats how it works.

I wish I had an easy answer for you but its a tough one and I feel your pain and concern.

Hang in there and keep us informed

Hucky:beerchug:

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Keep us informed if i here of a way ill be sure to put it up ASAP. Remember tell him that you guys need him, and giving up is a foolish way to face the problems positive attitude has a big effect on it. best of luck.

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I really hope all goes well, I'll have my two little guy's and wife pray for your family also. May you find peace during this emotionally trying time.

Cheers Friend.

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We're saying prayers for your dad here, too, Wayne. My best advise regarding rehab ... PLEASE make sure you have someone there with your dad at all times. Whether it's a relative or a hired nurse or nurses assistant... someone needs to be there to make sure he's getting his meds .. to make sure he's getting the CORRECT meds .. to make sure he's being turned so not to develop bed sores, etc. Once the hospital puts a patient into rehab, it has to do with insurance, but also because a patient's immune system is lowered due to illness or surgery that they are vulnerable to picking up something. I had an immediate family member in the hospital for 2 months (2 weeks in ICU, 2 weeks in PCU .. and the rest of the time on the medical floor). The staff was afraid something else could be picked up from being in there so long. I know that to be true now after hearing and reading so much about staph infections among long term hospital patients. But, back to the rehab. You need to be your dad's advocate and make sure someone is with him overseeing. If a family member can't be with him 24/7 .. and if one of you can't pay for a nurse or aid to be there overseeing, then split the cost among the immediate family members and get one. If someone isn't there physically with the recooperating family member, they will be overlooked much of the time. Good luck to you. Our prayers are with your family and dad. Please keep us updated, Wayne.

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Prayers for your Dad and your family!

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Sorry to hear about that,my prayers are with you and your family. ~Jinsey

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Hope things are looking better. We ave added your family to our prayer list.

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Today he seemed to be in a better mood, I took Hmmm3 advice and will be flying up Tuesday to meet with a nurse that my dad liked at the Hospital and have her go and look after him when she can.
I guess all I can really do is wait and pray that he will somehow pull through this. I will be flying up every week to check on Mom even though she thinks I am checking on Dad.

Thanks everyone.
Wayne

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So glad to hear that your dad is in a better mood, Wayne. I'm also happy to hear that you'll be flying up to visit and to talk to the nurse. If you won't be hiring a nurse, you (or your sis) may want to periodically give the nurse (the one your dad favors) a few dollars for taking the time to look in on your dad. Just tell her it's for a cup of coffee or snack (or whatever). This way she'll feel more inclined to make the visits. We did this with a family member and it gave us peace of mind. Also, a friend of ours mom was put into rehab (attached to the hospital). The hospital is in the top 100 in the U.S. Because her mom and the other woman in the room were elderly and sedated, they did not realize when the med rounds came around. The friend's mom was given the other woman's meds and vice versa it caused enough of a problem that the family decided to have a grand daughter stay round the clock with her in a sleeper chair in the room. While there, the grand daughter took notes and noted that the meds weren't always given when they should have been .. the catheter for wastes would overflow ... etc. She had to be the 'noisy wheel' to get things done right. I'm not trying to scare you, I just want you to be aware. It's good to have someone keeping a watchful eye while your dad is in rehab after the hospital. Rehabs are much more lax than the hospital atmosphere. Best wishes and plenty of prayers going your way.

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Thank you RYD.

Wayne