HELP - truck will not start - tried everything - HELP PLEASE!!!

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My H2 is not cranking now but all electrical is fine. It started about 10 days ago with a slight delay to crank when the key was in ignition mode - this was sporatic. After 10 days it now will not crank at all. I thought it was the ignition switch as my first one went on me 2 years ago. Went and got a new ignition switch and unfortunately no differrence. Then though it was the starter (another common problem). I bought a new starter and after install the truck started - I turned it off and tried again and it started. Thought I had it so I put all tools away and went to start/move the truck. ****n thing did the same **** - again had electrical but no crank. Tried it a dozen times now and still notrhing.

Now I do have some off stuff:

1) when key in igntyion mode the dash/display obviously goes on but I get 'service 4wd' message and I notice my rear air shocks are low (the ass end is drooping). If I could start the engine and hit the 'hiehgt control' I assume it would fix but I can't start the engine. Could this message be disabling the truck from starting??? Also why would my bags have deflated?

2) after no start, I try to remove key but it gets stuck as if the battery were dead - but the battery is not dead. To remove key I am forced to hit the little silver button on the in the steering column. I believe this may mean that the truck (or the brain) does not think it is in park. However the digital display shows park and if I shift the lever the digital display shifts correctly? Could my cable still be disconnected or broken causing this???

3) related to #2 above, I think it may be cable related? The other day when the truck could not start I had it blocking my neighbours driveway since I was just running into the house and turned off the H2 for a second. Being that I had a golf game I got the wifee to call BCAA (free anyway) to have them tow/move it. Apparently the tow truck driver went underneight the truck to 'force' it into neutral and they pushed it to a parking spot. Apparently the driver went under again and put it back. I think he manually shifted the tranny lever - could this have f'ed something up?? I doubt it though since as my description states I was able to start it after replacing the starter???

4) I now wonder if I replaced a perfectly fine starter for nothing. After removing it, I ran a battery power to the big power bolt and grounded the starter. I then ran a lead to the big power to the solendoid (small bolt) and the gear would flip out as it should. I then ran a lead from the big power to the other big bolt on the other end (that feed the starter motor) and I got nothing. I assume a properly working starter would have spun when I made this connection??? Or would it only have spun had I run a feed to both the small bolt and big bolt at the same time??? I Although it is too late as I can not return the new starter, just trying to confirm whether my original starter was maybe good or was it truly bad.

Thanks